In intimate relationships, many people unconsciously lose themselves: giving up their preferences, catering to the other person, and losing their bottom line. Losing oneself is not about loving too deeply, but about not having enough inner stability. Only by understanding the roots can one be true to oneself in love.

1、 The three core reasons for losing oneself

1.1 Overreliance on a sense of security, treating the other person as everything

The more insecure one is, the more they want to catch the other person. Some people regard love as the center of their lives, tying their emotions, values, and lives to their partners, gradually losing their own rhythm and independent judgment.

1.2 Fear of being abandoned, habit of pleasing and compromising

Worried about arguments, breakups, and being disliked, バイブ,they constantly back down: hiding their true thoughts, accommodating each other's preferences, and abandoning principles. Long term flattery will make oneself weaker, become humble and sensitive.

1.3 Low self-worth, needs recognition to exist

People who do not recognize themselves enough will see 'being loved' as a proof of value. Caring more about the other person's evaluation than one's own feelings, living the way the other person likes, but becoming less and less like oneself.

2、 After losing oneself, relationships will only become more exhausting

2.1 Rapid decline in attractiveness

Blindly catering will make people lose their radiance, become boring, and depressed. The less self you have, the more easily the other person becomes bored, and the relationship becomes more unstable.

2.2 Emotional entanglement in internal friction

After losing boundaries, happiness is determined by the other party. Only with a quick response can one feel at ease, while indifference can lead to anxiety, and prolonged tension, grievance, and self doubt.

3、 Guarding oneself in love is the long-term path

3.1 Maintain independence: have a life, goals, and circles

Don't treat love as everything, keep work, friends, and hobbies. Only independent people have stable confidence and sustained charm.

3.2 Defend the boundaries: express truthfully and do not blindly compromise

Dare to express ideas, dare to raise demands, dare to refuse, ディルド and never make reasonable requests. The true self is worth being truly liked.

Conclusion

A good love is when two people grow up side by side, not when one person disappears and becomes attached.

Learn to love and protect yourself first, and then love others, so that relationships can be relaxed, healthy, and long-lasting.